She Spoke

 ‘Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed, citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.’ –  Margaret Mead

She did not receive justice.

Those she was speaking to may not have listened.

But she still spoke – and her voice carried farther than she could have ever imagined.

It carried into the hearts of women just like her, and gave them courage to speak. It carried into the minds of parents, trying to teach their sons and daughters how to navigate a messy world . It carried into work environments that desperately needed a change. Her voice was amplified on the national stage and her voice was carried home to those close to her.

She spoke – and I listened.

Now it’s my turn to speak – to tell her she’s not alone. To tell her there is hope. To tell her justice is not the only validation and her voice can still do great things. May she, whoever she is to you, be a beacon of truth and hope for a better future.

She spoke up. She spoke true. And she was heard.


She Spoke is a quilt designed in collaboration with my friend Becky Hoss (@beckyjoquilts) to benefit Men Can Stop Rape, an organization dedicated to preventing violence against women by giving men a vital role to play in supporting equality, building healthy relationships, and demonstrating healthy masculine attitudes and behaviors. Read more about their mission and core values at, or at the bottom of this post.

This is such a special quilt – not only because of the inspiration and mission behind it’s design, but also because we sewed it together. It’s not really the finish-in-a-day type of quilt…but we did! She turbo sewed while I snipped and trimmed and did iron curls all day long. I was legit sore afterward, guys. But it was a fun day, especially when we added her two littles and giant St. Bernard to the mix!

I managed to keep pressing blocks with a three year old clutched to my ankle. I don’t know how parents do it.

Through the charity block drive and quilt auction prior to the pattern release, we raised nearly $1000 for MCSR! 20% of the pattern sales will continue to be donated always. Supporting charities that combat rape and domestic violence are not feel-good causes, nor are they easy conversations to have. There is no cure to find if only organization had enough funding – it’s only through sweeping culture change can progress be made. The She Spoke quilt is not only about financially supporting a charity committed to culture change, but primarily let all the Shes that spoke to know we hear you, we believe you, and we support you. May her story prevent another, and may all our sons and daughters grow up in a safer world.

Love, Rebecca and Becky

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Pieced by: Rebecca Pedela and Becky Hoss

Quilted by: Abby Latimer of Latimer Lane Quilting

Fabrics: Bonnie and Camille for Moda

Completed: February 2018



About Men Can Stop Rape

Our Mission & Vision

To mobilize men to use their strength for creating cultures free from violence, especially men’s violence against women. 


To institutionalize primary prevention of men’s violence against women through sustained initiatives that generate positive, measurable outcomes in populations throughout the world.

Men Can Stop Rape’s Core Values
View Men Positively

We believe all men have the capacity and desire to play a positive role in creating communities free from violence. As part of this belief, we assert that it is essential to approach men as potential allies rather than only as potential perpetrators. Further, in order for men to have empathy for themselves and women, we all must embrace and be comfortable with the full range of emotion in men that is authentically human.Uphold Gender Equity

We believe that men’s violence against women cannot be prevented without the parallel goal of gender justice. All systems of oppression, including the system of oppression against women and girls, foster cultures of violence. Therefore, men must join with women as allies in creating an equitable and just world for all genders in order to end men’s violence against women.Focus on Prevention

We aim to stop violence before it ever happens by helping men never act in violent or inequitable ways in their treatment of women and each other. Instead of helping women reduce their risk of being victims of men’s violence, we focus on helping men use their strength in positive ways in all of their relationships.Practice Non-Violence

We build on shared strength, not on strength over others. We help men learn healthy ways to express anger and the full range of emotions men are taught to suppress, and to recognize the vital role they play in creating violence-free cultures.Challenge Assumptions

We intentionally bring edginess to the conversation about men’s violence against women in order to challenge long held beliefs about appropriate behavior. We help men and boys to value the uncomfortable and to grow in their self-awareness and attitudes.Connect Oppressions

Our work is not just about real and perceived differences in gender, but it is also deeply connected to racism, sexism, homophobia, classism, religious intolerance, and other oppressions that make everyone vulnerable to victimization.Attend to Process

We believe the journey to learning and decision-making is as important as the chance for men to be understood and to feel safe in working with and embracing new concepts and ideas.Act as Role Models and Leaders

We provide opportunities to model behaviors that give men an alternative to violence. As men develop and maintain positive relationships with women and each other, they model that behavior for their peers.


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